That's marriage. All the old marrieds know just what I mean.
When the hashtag #firstworldproblems first came up, it served a similar purpose. A person would make a FB status update or send a tweet complaining about something while making it clear that even as they were complaining, they were aware that they were enormously privileged to have this problem. It's frustrating to get the wrong coffee after standing in a long line at Starbucks. It's amazing to have the income and the access to $4 coffee.
But somewhere over the last few months #firstworldproblems has morphed from a way someone makes evident their own privilege to judgy invective hurled outward.
This, I think, makes the whole hashtag a lot less valuable. The petty annoyances of modern first world life are petty. But they are also annoying. And a person can be annoyed without being an asshole; can be annoyed while being aware that their life is pretty good.
There are times when it's right to call someone out on for being an asshole. Here's a good one:
But if you respond to someone bitching on Twitter that they spent 15 minutes in line and then the barista gave them a Macchiato when they'd ordered an Americano (those are things, right? I think coffee tastes like butt so I don't suffer long lines at Starbucks) with "#firstworldproblems," it's not so much that you're being sympathetic to the plight of third worlders as you're just being morally superior.
And that doesn't help anyone.
Let's take #firstworldproblems back as a knowingly self-deprecating hashtag. That was good. And the next time you feel like calling some stranger out for being shallow, make sure your own house is clean first. Did you get hella pissed the last time someone took 17 items through the 10 items or less? Did you lean hard on your horn when that woman cut you off? We all do it. And we should all have room to admit it. Ourselves.